Tips for Parents of Scorpios

A few friends of mine are having babies in November, and have asked for some insight into scorpio babies & children.

Since I have two of my own scorpios, and not-to-mention a scorpio husband, I thought I would share some of my own first-hand-experience, especially how to keep them in balance.

Scorpio have a certain reputation for being moody, intense and drawn to deep intimate relationships. From my experience with them, I'd say that it's fairly accurate.

Personally, I love scorpios' energy. It is deep, intense and powerful. When channeled correctly, their inner intensity makes them so outwardly passionate and enthusiastic that it is hard not to be swept away and perhaps be even inspired by them. Adults or children alike. Their inner power externally manifests as ambition, persistence, and determination. These characteristics, as you can imagine, can lead a scorpio to accomplish many things in this great wide world.

Watch out though. If a scorpios' inner energy is out of balance, when their "big inner energy" releases, it may just sting you. Sorry for the lame metaphor, but unfortunately, it is a perfect word to describe it. For adults anyways, whenever I come out of a social interaction with a scorpio off balance, the nicer words that come to mind are "biting", "weird", "grumpy" or "bitchy".

Moody is a Doozy
When scorpios' deep inner needs are being met, and they are on the edge of their development curve where they are learning and growing, then they will be bright, happy, and brilliant stars.

Since Scorpio's are prone to moodiness, it is usually evidently clear when something is not right with them.

Especially true when it has to do with "big picture" stuff. I can always tell when my boys' spirit are not in tune. They start to have this undertone of grumpiness every day that just doesn't go away. It isn't a really bad at all, but its there, you know it.

I see it in my son when he doesn't get enough interaction, or is learning enough, or have something he can channel his energy into, he is a grump! When we started him in violin lessons, for example, his spirit started to shine again.

As for my baby girl. She is a double scorpio (also scorpio rising). For her, I see it as this: she is so content, happy, bright and spirited. Especially when she is on the edge of her learning curve. Just before she could sit up alone-ish, she became a very-vocally-loud-protesting-grump for a week! Then she could sit up by herself and she couldn't be happier not to be laying around most of the day.

It seems scorpios' mood can change on a dime. So as the care taker, you got to be prepared to react and balance it out.

Her scorpio comes out mostly when she is tired or hungry. You don't really know, until you know without a shadow of a doubt. She turns on a dime. To the point of being in the middle of a big expressive-laugh, that ends with an angry upset shriek loud enough the dogs down the street could hear it.

So Sensitive
Scorpio's are known to be sensitive, but it is in a deep solid way. Not like an "air sign" toddler who can get blown away and so overcome with emotion from the first breeze of the wind. Scorpio's sensitivity has more to do with being attune to their environment. They seem to have a deeper sense of what is going on. They are sensitive to the vibe in a room, or the vibe of a person. They can read others emotions, like if they are happy or sad, or even happy/sad with them. They are intuitive.

As a baby, my son was always extra sensitive to my vibe. If I was having a bad day, it was an even worse day for him because he was so tuned into me and didn't know what was wrong. Now he is older and knows that sometimes I am grumpy (yes! I admit it!) but that it isn't his fault (I make sure he knows I am sorry, but I am just tired or whatever) and he so he can function now independently, and is fine. (Now if he would just learn to leave me alone when I am grumpy. Ha, fat chance. Read the intimacy part).

Although they may sense it, Scorpio children may or may not be greatly effected by the external "vibe". My daughter, for example, who doesn't seem to be as effected by other people's emotional states. When my on gets grumpy at her for an irrational reason ("stop touching my car!!! UGH!!") and is very typically dramatic about it, she thinks it is the funniest thing she has ever seen. (I do too but am more polite).

Deep Intimate Connection
Because they are so sensitive and intense, scorpios tend to form very intense bonds with others, especially the main care-takers. My hubs was a bit jealous of my son-and-my connection at first. My son was a bit possessive of me, dare I say. Still is, but in a good solid, grounded to an adult way. He isn't shy to play or be left at grandparents, friends or school.

My son loves to play with his friends. Every few months I will causally ask him,  "so who is your best friend now?"  So far, he keeps surprising me and answers, "you mom." Not looking for the compliment, I try to dive a little deeper. "No really, which friend do you like to play with the most?" But a lass, there it comes with a real loving smile, "you mama." "Oh," I say, "thanks." And I give him a hug, quite honored.

It seems like scorpios have a deep longing for a deep connection with another to feel complete and in balance.

So if you want a deep connection with your child, and are having (or have) a scorpio, then you are in the money! Scorpios certainly possesses the ability.

That is why I choose, in part, to stay at home with my two scorpios. I fear they would resent me if I didn't, and would act out negatively. I am also pretty happy at home, so that helps too.

Mental Stuff
Adults and children scorpios alike are mysterious, a little sneaky, and imaginative. The introvert, like my husband, as a child loved setting up toy scenes for his fantasy worlds. There is always a lot going on in his head, and a lot of it having to do with "mysterious" things.

My son, who is an extrovert, absolutely loves to play out skits, do big dramas, and role playing. Usually ninjas and superheros of the late. He is also thinking, thinking, thinking, most of which I am privy to since he likes to talk it all out, and ask a million questions. It is exhausting. He also shines up like a light bulb when he "tricks" you in a game, or is being sneaky. I actually pretend like I don't notice him being sneaky so he can get his sneakiness out. (Oh, aren't I sneaky!)

Despite that scorpios have a sharp mind prone to imagination and fantasy, they are still fairly grounded and very rational beings from my observation. Friends with toddlers who are "air" or even "fire signs" seem to have a hard time rationalizing with their toddlers who get very emotional. The air and fire sign children may have a harder time getting them focused and following direction - aka the free spirits who tend to be in this group. Not a bad thing per say, until you are trying to get your kid up and out to do stuff ect.

From a very small age, say 16 months, I have been able to talk to my son and rationalize with him through a situation  This made "the terrible two's" not as bad. He can get intensely focused on an activity if he likes it, and is pretty easy to take direction. This is somewhat typical to a scorpio kid I hear.

How To Help Keep Scorpio's Mood In Check? 

The best way to manage scorpios, I have found from living with three, is to "ground" them. I am an earth sign so it comes easy to me. Here are some ways:

1) Make sure they go connect to nature every day.  Walk with bare feet, go for hikes, adventures out in nature, go camping. You get the picture.

2) Make sure they eat on time. Best tip ever. Don't forget this, or be ready and waiting for their scorpio tail to reer up and strike you even before you know what is happening. Hand them a snack quick! Or you will loose them into a dark downward spiral as they become irrational, argumentative, strubborn....it is not pretty folks. You are warned. 

3) Make sure they get enough sleep. True for most people really, but when dealing with moody people, you have to cover your bases. Try to get your baby/child on a regular nap schedule and night time routine. You will be rewarded.

4) Give lots of kisses and hugs. Be ready and waiting to give lots of comfort to your little one (or even your scorpio spouse).  They feel grounded by touch. 

5) Human Connection. They need to feel a deep bond with another. They want to know someone loves them and has "their back".  This keeps them in balance, and makes them feel safe.

But Wait, My Scorpio Isn't Very Moody
Either A: you are doing a really great job at balancing your little scorpio.
Or B: you are lucky!

But there is also other signs (like their rising sign and moon sign)  in their zodiac chart that could be overshadowing. Or other genetic stuff. Or this whole zodiac thing is a crock!

Hope this is helpful to know how to balance your scorpio child. In the end, a person is unique and so who knows. Life is a mystery!

More Info on Scorpios
Scorpio (♏) is the eighth astrological sign in the Zodiac, originating from the constellation of Scorpius. Scorpio is considered a feminine, negative (introverted) sign by most modern astrologers. Under the tropical zodiac, the Sun enters Scorpio on October 23 and exits on November 22. In Greek Mythology, the myths associated with Scorpio almost invariably also contain a reference to Orion. To read more, click here.